“The world is changed by your example, not your opinion” – Paulo Coelho
Focus your attention on your endeavors themselves rather than the potential outcomes of those endeavors. You will likely find solace in applying yourself to your aspirations today even when you meet with few instances of success. Believe in the certainty of success and your outlook will likely improve immeasurably.
Ensuring that we never lose sight of our larger goals is as easy as adopting a mindset that says our eventual success is inevitable. Because our lives will not always live up to our expectations, we may be forced by circumstance to cope with long delays that keep us from realizing our dreams in the time frame we previously envisioned. When we believe that these aims are still within our reach even though there is currently much standing in our path, we are less likely to view the achievement of a brighter future as an impossibility. Instead, we continue forward in whatever manner we can, even if our progress is all but invisible because we understand that in the end, nothing has the power to interfere with our resolve. You will not feel stuck when you accept that you will achieve that which you are destined for, in time.
Day 20: Write a Letter to Your Past Self
Task 1: Morning Routine (does not have to be in this order, just do all) (45-60min)
Meditation – Begin your box breathing in silence and take 10 minutes to reflect on what causes you pain
mentally and emotionally with work, family, life, etc – (10min)
Move – (5min)
Listen – (2min)
Journal – Set your timer and write for 10min *3 gratitude’s + anything that comes to mind* (10min)
Read – Set your timer and read anything you choose for 10 min *No blogs or social media* (10min)
Plan – Break out your mindfulness sheets or planner and set your intentions for the day. (10min)
Task 2: Handwrite a letter to your past self. What does your past self need to hear?
Why: Just as the letter from your future self is a potent form of clarifying your compassionate intentions, the letter to your past self is supercharged forgiveness.
Take your time with this exercise. If emotions stir up, that’s completely normal and to be expected. Be kind to yourself (and your past self) as you go through this exercise. If you need to stop, that’s OK and understandable. You’ve been practicing forgiveness, and now you get to put it in practice in the most impactful way: on your childhood self. You’ve got this!
Task 3: “A Mile in YOUR Shoes.” Again. (day 9)
Choose a weight that is commensurate with your pain. Put that weight in a
backpack. Walk for 24 minutes (12 minutes in one direction, and 12 minutes back from
the direction you came). When you get to your original starting point, put the pack and
the weight down.
Now walk for 6 more minutes with no pack or weight. Think. Reflect. Box breathe.
Mantra. Right down what you learned doing this a SECOND time. What changed? What
stayed the same? What will you DO with the information you now have?